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Friday, November 13, 2009

Day 88

No word again on the home front regarding Min Zhi. Now I am beginning to wonder if the delay was for a purpose.
There is a girl that will turn 14 mid-January that no one has started adoption proceedings on. There have been alerts put up all over the adoption yahoo groups about this girl. She is healthy, just in jeopardy of ageing out. I have seen her for months on the lists, but never thought that she was meant for us. Now we are thinking that we may be meant for her.
I don’t want to make a decision based on emotions, because I want to save the world. I also don’t want to make a decision out of fear, as that will keep me from doing anything. I want to discern what God’s will is for us.
Dave started shaking his head at me when I first brought this up, called me nuts, and then ignored me…which is fine, as I show him photos of kids I would love to add to our family all the time. He then said that he needed to pray hard about it. Last night he started talking to the kids about her. I talked to the agency about her today, and found out all that needs to happen in the next three weeks…
PLEASE PRAY FOR GOD’S WISDOM AND DISCERNMENT…AND for Him to be abundantly CLEAR about his will. I really don’t want to have division regarding this girl—but I also don’t want to know that she aged out and we were in the position to do good to her.
All my best,

1 comment:

  1. I went through that, too. I fell in love with a 4-year-old boy who was on the list of waiting children. Funny how I originally signed up for a girl and almost came home with TWO boys! (Boys are also worth considering. God loves them too.) Fortunately, my husband reminded me that adopting two at once would overwhelm me. And he was right.

    An 88 day wait is still average - some families are waiting over 100 days, a few even reaching 120. The approval is coming. You'll get Min Zhi, surely. If you feel it is realistic to adopt two children at once, by all means do it. But first make sure that is really what you're called to do... and whether that is the best circumstance for the children.

    (During my waiting time I also seriously considered rescuing all the dogs and cats out of my local shelter. My husband is a saint for putting up with me. I think it's a common coping mechanism for the very, very difficult task of waiting for your child. You're desperate to fill the gap in your life where she belongs. But she will fill it when you bring her home. That day will come.)